Fairfax EggBank is celebrating our LGBTQ+ donor egg families. We are strong supporters of the LGBTQ+ community and are proud to play a role in building families for all.
This upcoming June marks the 49th celebration of Pride, an international celebration that unites people with the common goal of advancing the rights and support for the LGBTQ+ community. For years we have participated in D.C. Pride, and we will be at the festival, Sunday, June 9th to share information on how we help build donor egg families. Our sister company Fairfax Cryobank helps couples who need a sperm donor, as well as helping trans men and trans women preserve their fertility.
Our proudest moments are when we hear from happy Fairfax EggBank donor egg parents.
Below are a couple of testimonials we’ve received from proud dads.
“I cannot thank Fairfax EggBank enough for helping me throughout a very emotional and difficult process with an eventual success despite multiple setbacks. As a single gay man trying to become a father, I had a lot of inhibitions when I was trying to choose the right egg donor. Fairfax EggBank had a coordinator with whom I have had direct conversations and she made the process work as best as it can. She first understood what I was looking for and then made it her personal mission to find me the right donor. There were challenges and setbacks as a natural part of the process. She was there at every step of the way lockstep with me – responsive, personal, swift. She was the single point of contact with all the different departments at the bank and that made a huge difference. Eventually, I became a father with donor eggs from Fairfax EggBank. I am writing this as I sit next to my 10-day-old daughter and I cannot thank them enough for being there for me.”
“Our journey to parenthood has been long. I knew I wanted to be a dad for decades, but it took me a while to find the right partner who also wanted a family. But then it took us another few years to be in a financial position to be able to try to build one. There are a lot of expenses, from surrogate fees, IVF and medication costs, legal fees, and donor egg costs. Last year, we were finally ready.
After searching a few different egg banks, we settled on Fairfax because they had a wide variety of ethnic donors. We ended up finding a donor who was perfect for us – an unusual ethnic mix that matched my partner and my preference, had great looks and a strong education, bio, the whole nine. Our surrogate got pregnant with the donor eggs on the first try and we’re expecting a baby in the spring.
We were obviously very happy with the outcome of working with Fairfax. We just purchased more eggs from the same donor so that our children will be genetic half-siblings with each of us as genetic fathers.”
MR also wrote a blog providing tips to other gay males on how to choose an egg donor. Read his blog here.
For the most part, Fairfax EggBank works with gay male clients who wish to use frozen donor eggs to implant into their surrogate. (Though, we occasionally have gay female clients who require the use of donor eggs due to female-factor infertility or genetic risks to the unborn child).
We understand that gay male clients must invest considerable effort into building their family. There is the lawyer they need to represent them, a surrogate they need to find to carry their baby, an IVF clinic they need to perform the fertilization and implantation, and of course, the egg donor they need to use. These components can cost an average of $120,000 and take an average of 16-21 months to come together. Expenses can quickly escalate and time can drag on for a variety of reasons. It may take time to save the money to pay for the surrogacy journey. A surrogate or egg donor may be hard to find. The IVF cycle may not work the first time around (or the second, or third).
We at Fairfax EggBank help to reduce major pain points gay male individuals and couples would typically experience if they went the traditional fresh egg donor route:
The process to procure donor eggs is simple for clients. As long as the client’s IVF clinic is a partner of Fairfax EggBank and the IVF clinic consents to the donor egg purchase, all the client needs to do is to process simple paperwork and the payment for the donor egg cohort. Fairfax EggBank’s donor coordinator and her team will handle the rest of the logistics with the client’s IVF clinic. If your clinic isn’t a partner, there are a couple of options. If your clinic is willing to partner with us, we will proceed with onboarding them. If you are open to working with a clinic that we already partner with, we can put you in touch with one of hundreds of trusted clinics across the U.S.
Fairfax EggBank is committed to helping everyone who chooses to build a family. We work closely with RESOLVE, the National Infertility Association. Their 2019 Advocacy Day on May 16th was held in Washington, D.C. with advocates from across the United States. In additional to requests for Federal funding for insurance coverage for fertility for Federal employees and Veterans, we also asked for support for Every Child Deserves A Family Act, sponsored by Representative John Lewis (D-GA). This act would ban discrimination against foster and adoptive parents, families or origin and foster youth based on sex, sexual orientation, gender identity, marital status and religion; It will improve services to the 20% of foster youth who identify as LGBTQ+; and will overturn 9 state laws allowing discrimination for adoptions.
Only recent developments have helped to advance the goal of LGBTQ+ community members who wished to become parents. Until recently, laws against same-sex marriage precluded couples from adopting, since many state adoption requirements warranted the couple to be married). For those LGBTQ+ individuals who were lucky enough to use fertility services to build a family, rampant discrimination made them greatly secretive about their family or even their own sexual orientation.
Several states starting in 2013 allowed same-sex marriage, but it wasn’t until 2015 when the Supreme Court deemed same-sex marriage was constitutional and therefore legal in all 50 states. In addition, in 2016, a federal judge deemed unconstitutional a state-specific law in Mississippi which outlawed adoption by same-sex couples.
These landmark federal decisions open the landscape for more LGBTQ+ couples and individuals to build a family. They are also encouraged by the growing support from people across the country. In a Gallup poll in 2018, 67% of Americans indicated they support same-sex marriage, in contrast to 27% when Americans were polled in 1996. Scientific research also consistently shows that “gay and lesbian parents are as fit and capable as heterosexual parents, and their children are as psychologically healthy and well-adjusted as those reared by heterosexual parents.”
The future looks increasingly more promising. However, conservative state-level laws that override federal mandates continue to threaten the rights of the LGBTQ+ community and its children. We encourage our readers, particularly those in conservative states that threaten LGBT rights, to reach out to local and national advocacy groups to see how to help protect the rights of the community.
To learn more about the dedicated support we provide to the LGBTQ+ community, message us or call 888.352.5577.
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