Interview with IVF Babble Magazine

At a recent medical conference, we met Tracey Bambrough and Sara Marshall-Page, founders of IVF Babble, a fresh new website that offers expertise from fertility experts, the latest news in the fertility field, and a community for those embarking on the IVF journey. As we are always looking for support resources for our egg donor recipients, we interviewed Tracey and Sarah to learn more about what IVF Babble offers.

What inspired you to start IVF babble? What’s your vision for the website and where do you see IVF babble in 5 years?

First, may we take this opportunity to introduce ourselves. We are Tracey and Sara, two women who have been through IVF treatment and are now thrilled to say, both proud mums to twin girls. Our journeys were not straightforward at all, with Sara’s treatment lasting 4 years and Tracey’s taking almost 10. Along the way we both experienced major setbacks, all of which were handled with confusion, disbelief and fear due to a lack of clear information and support.

We made the decision a couple of years ago that although we didn’t have sufficient support when we were going through treatment, we could do something to help others. We live in an online world, where people want information 24/7, at the touch of their fingertips, so it made perfect sense to create a website with a difference – a beautifully presented, fresh, well informed and accurate online magazine.

We only launched in November but we are well on our way to reaching our goal of becoming the go to place for everything fertility related.

What kind of content and resources can a visitor expect to find there?

The message we want to get across to our readers through our articles is ‘diagnosis is key’. Our articles will help you understand possible reasons as to why you can’t conceive. Armed with this knowledge, you can talk to your doctor with clarity, about the options available to you.

On the website you will find expert advice for every path to parenthood, whether that be IVF, ICSI, surrogacy, sperm donation, egg donation, or embryo donation.

Alongside the expert advice, you will read stories from those that have experienced fertility treatment. Sharing stories has the most comforting and calming effect.

You will also discover a wealth of information on well-being such as nutrition, acupuncture, massage, fitness and a balanced mind.

We bring you the latest fertility news from around the world, and of course no magazine would be complete without a celebrity story. I think we can all say, it inspires us and makes us realize even more so that we’re not alone when a celeb ‘comes out’ and shares their IVF experiences.

Where can we find information on donor eggs on your site?

There is much information to be found on egg donation on the website. Simply click on the donor box in the carousel on the homepage and you will be taken straight through to your own page, full of articles and stories.

Do you offer support networks?

We provide information on support networks for our readers, but we too offer support in varying ways. You can email us to put a query to one of our experts, or you can come along to one of our events and actually meet the experts, alongside other men and women who have been through fertility treatment.

In the next few months we will be launching a social network platform called IVF buddy. It will allow you to search for clinics and support groups in your area, as well as a buddy going through the same as you …an ‘around me’ for everything fertility so to speak.

What words of encouragement do you have for others on their infertility journey?

We know only too well how low fertility challenges can make you feel. Trying to remain positive in a world full of pregnant women is very, very difficult. Advice like ‘try to stay positive’ is not the best advice. Instead, we would say it’s important to understand why you can’t conceive and talk to your doctor about the best option for you with regards diagnostic and fertility treatment.

Do not just jump straight into IVF. Look at the options available to you and choose one that is right for you. Get yourself well mentally and physically. Eat well, talk to your partner or a close friend. Don’t bottle things up.

This is a journey, so be prepared that it may take a while. Do as much as you can to prepare. Breathe, open your eyes and be empowered by understanding your options and the process as you move forwards on your path to parenthood.


First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes…Infertility?

Fairfax EggBank has partnered with Parents Via Egg Donation (PVED) to launch a blog series written by Heather, a recent egg donor recipient at Fairfax EggBank. Our hope is that through PVED, Heather’s voice can be shared with others who are just beginning their donor egg journey and are seeking authentic experiences of others who have been through it.

Stay tuned through either PVED’s website or ours to read Heather’s upcoming blogs.

First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes…Infertility?

“You won’t be able to have a baby on your own”: Words that no one wishing to conceive wants to hear. Frankly, I wish no couple or individual has to hear them.

I don’t have to tell you about how this all feels like being a roller coaster; you’re most likely a reluctant rider too.

I embarked on my roller coaster ride in my late 20’s, though everything else took off as planned initially. It started by finally meeting the man I had been waiting for; the one whom I couldn’t wait to start a life with. We had a fairytale wedding and moved into our dream home together. Having a child was the next item down on our checklist. But, as months turned into a year with no pregnancy to bear, we turned to see a reproductive endocrinologist to see if he can easily fix our issue. Boy, was I wrong thinking it would be easy.

The Diagnosis

After my reproductive endocrinologist took what felt like half of my weight in blood to test for hormones and diseases, followed by a laparoscopy, he gave me my diagnosis: endometriosis. I had the severe type: the type that distorts pelvic anatomy and gets in the way of making a baby.

I still thought it wouldn’t be difficult to conceive despite this diagnosis. I figured drug treatment can help suppress endometriosis, and once I did the baby dance at the right time, BAM! I’d be pregnant.  Well, it obviously didn’t happen that way.

Months later, I developed a large ovarian cyst that caused me to be very, very sick. I couldn’t work for two months and it got so bad that I needed emergency surgery. Devastatingly, from this surgery I lost my ovary, fallopian tube, and appendix.

The pain I felt post-operation was indescribable, and it lasted over a month. Despite this, I pushed myself like heck to heal. I wanted to start IVF so badly, especially knowing my chances of conceiving naturally were that much lower with one ovary.

The Path to Donor Egg

To my excitement, in just two months after surgery, I was cleared to start IVF. However, the endometriosis and ovarian cysts still got in the way, and over the course of two years I completed two IVF cycles and one FET cycle – all resulting in BFNs (“big fat negatives” for those not on infertility boards).

My doctor explained that my egg quality was most likely being impacted by my endometriosis, and that my chance for success in future cycles was low. He recommended we look into donor egg or surrogacy.

My husband and I actually had the conversation two years prior to our journey about using potential donors on either side if we needed to. At that time, my answer was “heck no”.

But now that we were at this critical decision point, we thought about it more. If we chose surrogacy, we wouldn’t have the joy of seeing the first positive pregnancy test, or hear the dulcet sound of a heartbeat. To us, that meant the world.

We decided to pursue donor egg. And I can tell you I have never regretted this decision, not even for a second.


Have questions for Heather? E-mail


Heather’s Blog Series:

#1: Intro to my Donor Egg Story

#2: First Comes Love, then Comes Marriage, then Comes…Infertility?

#3: Our Decision to Use Frozen Donor Eggs

#4: Selecting an Egg Donor

#5: Three Resources to Use for Your Donor Egg Research

About PVED

Parents Via Egg Donation, or PVED, was created to provide an informational and supportive environment where parents and parents-to-be can learn and share information about all facets of the egg donation process.

Our mission is to educate, support, and empower families and individuals at any stage of the process who choose to use egg donation to build a family. We share information about agencies, legal and medical professionals, treatment centers, mental health therapists, pharmaceutical companies, and other resources.

PVED is a national, not-for-profit 501(c)(3) charitable organization headquartered in Scappoose, Oregon

Their website contains a wide variety of information and ideas to help you in your family-building journey. If you can’t find what you are looking for, our listserves can link you to others who may have had similar experiences and are happy to share their knowledge.

Top Conferences in 2017 for Donor Egg Patients


If you are thinking about starting a family and need help getting started, there are a variety of conferences where you can learn more about egg donation and donor egg ivf. Fertility experts, service providers, and vendors will provide insight into the options available to you as a donor egg recipient. Meanwhile you will be surrounded by people just like you who are looking to start a family.

The list of the top fertility and family-planning conferences for 2017:

Manchester Fertility Show

mancheter-fertility-show-2017Whether you are just thinking about starting a family or have been trying for a while, The Fertility Show Manchester can provide advice, information, and support to help you on your journey. Their extensive seminar program provides access to experts and a wide range of exhibitors so you can explore the best options for you and get some of your questions answered.
When: March 25th-26th, 2017
Where: Manchester Central Convention Complex, Windmill St, Manchester UK
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American Fertility EXPO

american-fertility-expo-2017The American Fertility Expo will offer a full day of cutting-edge seminars by top fertility professionals, interactive workshops, networking opportunities with leading medical professionals, and the space to learn, reflect, recharge, and renew in a safe and discreet venue.
When: April 29th, 2017
Where: Pasadena Conference Center, Pasadena, CA 91101
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resolve-fertility-conference-2017Exploring Paths of Hope: 32nd Annual Infertility & Adoption Family Building Conference. If you have been trying to conceive for over six months, this will be the conference for you.This conference is designed to address the medical and emotional issues associated with infertility and adoption. Attendees will learn about new treatments, be able to talk directly to doctors and specialists, explore parenting options and network with others experiencing infertility.
When: October 2017 (TBA)
Where: Normandale Community College, Bloomington, MN 55431
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RESOLVE New England 24th Annual Conference

resolve-new-england-conference-2017The 24th Fertility Treatment, Donor Choices and Adoption Conference is the largest educational consumer infertility conference in the country.
When: November 4th
Where: Boston Marriott Newton Hotel, Newton, MA 02466
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Men Having Babies

stacks_image_18880Surrogacy workshops, seminars, and exhibitions for gay prospective parents. Men Having Babies seminars provided hundreds of gay men a comprehensive overview of surrogacy by panels of experts and peers.
When/Where: Tel Aviv – March 2-3
Chicago – April 8-9
Dallas – June 10-11
Brussels – September 23-24
New York – November (TBA)
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Gay Women’s Gathering: An Evening on Lesbian Pregnancy

path-to-parenthood-conference-2017A free event hosted in various cities which will feature a doctor, attorney, and sperm bank rep discussing everything you need to know about working with sperm donors, legal safeguards for LGBT families during the Trump-era and medical procedures, like insemination and in vitro fertilization, and Zika avoidance.
When/Where: Huston – March 22
Dallas – March 30
Miami – April 19
Beverly Hills – April 26
Learn More:


While online research can teach you a lot about infertility and the egg donation process, attending a conference will give you access to medical professionals, attorneys, and people just like you who can provide first hand testimony about their experience.

These conferences are intended to be informative and supportive during your family-planning journey. Now that you have this year’s line-up for conferences, which ones will you be attending?

Books for Children Conceived through Egg Donation


For parents gifted with children conceived through egg donation, it’s important to tell them about their origins. However, it might be a hard or awkward conversation to start. Parents may worry how to present many subjects surrounding donated eggs—sperm, eggs, egg donors, pregnancy, IVF, surrogacy—in language that children can understand, while also taking their age into account.

Fortunately, many children’s authors and illustrators have created a wide range of books to help parents of egg donor children start the conversation. We’ve put together a beginning list of recommended books for parents of donor offspring to share with their kids.


Books for Children Conceived through Egg Donation

  • One More Giraffe by Kim Noble. Ages 5 and under.A board book that introduces the key concepts about babies and egg donation, and how some people (or in this case giraffes) need help to be able to be a Mommy or a Daddy.
  • donor conceived childrens book one more giraffeThe Pea That Was Me: An Egg Donation Story by Kimberly Kluger-Bell. Ages 3-5. With age appropriate language and clear but simple concepts, the story talks about how it takes an egg, a sperm and a “tummy” to make a baby; that Mommy’s eggs weren’t working quite right; and why Mommy and Daddy needed the help of a very special person: an egg donor. Psychotherapist and reproductive specialist Kim Kluger-Bell has written a series of other books addressing reproduction topics for younger children, including The Pea That Was Me: A Two Dads’ Egg Donation and Surrogacy Story.donor egg childrens book the pea that was me
  • A Part Was Given and an Angel Was Born by Rozanne Nathalie. Ages 4-8. By using phrases such as “a part in mommy just didn’t work as it should,” this book tries to lighten the “heaviness” that an accompany the topic of egg donation by emphasizing the love that surrounds it.Donor conceived childrens book-part was given angel was born
  • Mommy, Was Your Tummy Big? by Caroline Nadel. Ages 5 and under. A mother elephant explains her use of donor eggs to her child. With vivid illustrations and simple language (“Mommy, was your tummy big?”) this book can help parents who used in vitro fertilization and donor eggs begin to explain the process to small children. The book has been praised by many mental health professionals who work with fertility issues. A Spanish version is available through the author’s website.Mommy was your tummy big - Donor conceived children's book
  • Phoebe’s Family: A Story about Egg Donation by Linda Stamm and Joan Clipp. Ages 5-10. Phoebe’s mom tells her the wonderful and unique story of how she came to be through egg donation. Along the way, Phoebe hears about the challenges her parents faced in trying to have a baby, as well as the ultimate good news of her birth into a warm and loving family. Great for elementary school-aged kids.Donor conceived childrens book - A story about egg donation
  • The Twin Kangaroo Treasure Hunt: A Gay Parenting Story by Carmen Martinez Jover. Ages 2-6. An introduction to the concepts of donor eggs and surrogacy for children with gay dads.Donor egg conceived childrens book - Kangaroo treasure hunt
  • A Tiny Itsy Bitsy Gift of Life, an Egg Donor Story by Carmen Martinez Jover. Ages 2-6. A donor story about a happy rabbit couple who have everything—except a baby bunny. One day a good lady rabbit brings them a tiny itsy bitsy gift of life: an egg. A Spanish edition is also available.Donor conceived children's book - Tiny itsy bitsy gift of life


With the holiday season upon us, a book that the whole family can share is a wonderful gift.For children conceived with the help of donor eggs, books are a great way to begin their journey of self-discovery. Do you have any more books you’d like to add to this list?

Gestational Surrogacy and Frozen Donor Eggs


For some families hoping for a child of their own, donor eggs may not be enough. Some couples need to also rely on a gestational surrogate for a successful pregnancy. A gestational surrogate is a woman who carries a pregnancy and delivers a baby for another family. This surrogate if often not related to the baby she carries; the pregnancy is achieved through IVF with another egg, which can be a donor egg.

So when is a gestational surrogate the best option, and how does it relate to the use of donor eggs — especially frozen donor eggs?


Surrogacy for Women Facing Infertility

A woman may have an issue with her uterus that prevents a pregnancy from being carried safely to term, this includes a missing uterus due to surgery or other health difficulties. At the same time, she may also have problems with her eggs due to age, ovarian health, or other genetic factors. The decision to use donor eggs, as well as a surrogate to carry the pregnancy, is a difficult decision. But for couples faced with these fertility problems, surrogacy with donor eggs represents their best chance at parenthood.


Surrogacy for Gay Males Couples Building Families

Male couples longing for their own children now have the option to use donor eggs with a surrogate. The definition of family is expanding, yet sometimes adoption can be a daunting process for male couples. Instead, surrogacy with donor eggs offers the chance to start their own family.


How Do Families Find a Surrogate?

Find a surrogate is not an easy process. Some couples go through agencies to find a healthy, screened young woman to act as a gestational surrogate. Some go through private channels to find one on their own. Both routes to find a gestational surrogate are emotionally and legally complicated, and take time, patience, and money.


What’s Involved with Using Donor Eggs and a Gestational Surrogate?

The steps involved with donated eggs and surrogacy are time-consuming and complex, especially if families decide to use fresh donor eggs from a live donor.

  • Both women have to find time in their busy lives for what is, after all, a major commitment for both (but especially for the surrogate).
  • Legal documents have to be signed.
  • In-depth screening must be completed for donor and surrogate.
  • Both women’s menstrual cycles have be synchronized through medication.
  • There are also travel arrangements and expenses for the couple, the donor, and the surrogate.
  • There’s no guarantee how the donor will respond to the medication, or how many eggs will be retrieved.

All the time and expense involved with a gestational surrogate can be very difficult for couples seeking a chance at parenthood through this method.


How Frozen Donor Eggs Can Help

Frozen donor eggs from a donor egg bank such as Fairfax EggBank have already been retrieved from rigorously screened donors, extraordinary women who have already taken the time and effort to donate their eggs. What does this mean for the surrogacy process?

  • Less time. With frozen donor eggs, the screening and retrieval have already been completed.
  • Less worry. Families only need to focus on the needs and scheduling of one special woman, the surrogate.
  • Less expense. No travel and legal expenses for the egg donor are required with frozen eggs.
  • Less surprise. When a couple purchases frozen donor eggs, the eggs are shipped in a cohort, or a set number of eggs. There’s no surprises about the number of eggs retrieved.

For couples hoping to build their families with the help of a gestational surrogate and donor eggs, frozen donor eggs can be a more affordable way to make their wishes come true. Please contact us if you have more questions about surrogacy with frozen eggs.


Trisha’s Journey Part VI: What We’ll Tell Others About Our Donor Egg Journey

[Download Trisha’s entire blog series in PDF form here]

The following is the final blog of Trisha H’s journey to motherhood. It is with bittersweet sadness that we conclude this series, though we are excited for the many new chapters Trisha and her family will create. Trisha, thank you so much for your invaluable contributions to sharing your voice and for the help you have provided to others going through the same journey.

Our Future – What Stories Will We Share with Friends/Family and our Child(ren)

What will we tell people about our donor egg journey?

This is a topic my husband and I discussed early on in our process.  I should probably start by letting you know that you readers know more about our journey than almost everyone in our personal lives. Apart from our mothers, my sister, and two close but not best friends, “strangers” are the only people who know our entire story.  Not that we are ashamed of our donor egg family, but because we know some people may not protect this decision with the tenderness it deserves.  It would shatter my heart if someone, especially someone we trust, ever used our family as a topic of mockery or gossip. As such, there are some parts of our story we elect to keep private to a certain degree.

Here is how we see it….

What is important is our child was made out of pure LOVE. He is our baby, who grew in my belly for 9 long months. We have an indescribable bond that is only shared between the two of us.  It is magical!  I still think about the day he was pulled (via c-section) from my belly.  The moment I heard him cry, I let out my own cry that came from a place so deep within my soul… a place I have never felt before.  I can still remember the instant and greatest love, joy, and relief that came over me… we finally got to meet our sweet baby boy, who looks exactly like his father, may I add. I am telling you, he is the number one reason I was born.

So, back to what we will tell people.  As far as family and friends are concerned, those who already know, are the only people, who are not “strangers,” we plan to tell (well, almost – keep reading about “others”).  What they know – because there is nothing more to share – is all they will know.  We trust in each of them to keep our family secret sacred.  For “others” in our lives, they will know our story about the challenges we faced when trying to conceive, and how we met our eventual success through IVF (just not the donor egg part).   With “strangers” and “others” in our lives who struggle with fertility (we will only tell other people we know in our lives – family, friends, or acquaintances – if they struggle with trying to conceive themselves), they will know our ENTIRE story.  We find it an honor to help other families make their own decision about their options to have a child, even if it means “others” in our lives knowing about our decision to use donor eggs… I believe helping families make the decision about their family is reason number two for why I was born.

Now, will we tell our son?  We still have not decided.  If we do, it will not be before he is 18 years old.  Some of the questions we ponder are – Why does he need to know?  How will it make him feel?  Will he see me differently?  Will he understand?  Will it hurt him?  Can we deal with the rejection, if it means being honest, should he decide to respond this way?  There are so many questions for which we do not have the answers right now.  And, any of what we will share will depend on his personality. Will he grow up to be an open-minded individual?  If so, and we decide to talk to him about how he was conceived, will we share our story about IVF only or the full truth regarding donor eggs?  Again, we do not have the answers at this time and do not believe it to be important right now, either.

In the end, whatever we decide to share, our son will always know he was made with lots of love sprinkled with a little bit of sugar and spice.  He will know it takes mommy parts and daddy parts to make a baby and, sometimes, when these parts are not working very well, doctors help mommies and daddies make babies like him.



Let’s Chat!

I like to talk a lot – not only vocally but with my fingers.  Send me your thoughts and questions to  I promise to respond as promptly as possible.  Below is a list of planned blog topics, but if you have additional topics to suggest, as they relate to trying to conceive through donor options, please let me know.


The decision journey Part I: The beginning of my fertility journey and the decision to use donor eggs

The decision journey Part II: Deliberating fresh v. frozen eggs

The decision journey Part III: Finding the right donor

How the process worked once I found my donor, and the cradle-to-grave (or “big fat positive” [BFP]) process

Resources I used throughout the decision process

Trisha’s Husband’s Journey: Reflections and Advice to Other Partners

Our future – What stories will we share with friends/family and our child(ren) – Current Blog

Trisha’s Husband’s Journey: Reflections and Advice to Other Partners

[Download Trisha’s entire blog series in PDF form here]

The following blog is the sixth part to Trisha H’s journey to motherhood – but with a twist. We feature Avi, Trisha’s husband, in commemoration of Father’s Day. The words are all his own.

Trisha’s Husband’s Journey: Reflections and Advice to Other Partners

Words can’t describe the way I felt when Trisha called to say – “WE’RE PREGNANT!!”  I had wanted to hear these words for more than four years while we were trying to have a baby.  Not just because I was ready to be a father, but because I knew it was so important for Trisha.  She wanted nothing more than to grow our family and be the best wife and mom for our family. And, I have to tell you, she is killing it. She is the absolute best!

As Father’s Day approaches, I reflect back on last year.  It was during Father’s Day weekend 2015 when we had our transfer.  I can remember when it was taking place, I looked at Trisha and then up at God and said in a silent prayer, “Please let this be the one.  Amen.”  Afterwards, as we sat in IHOP, watching the other fathers celebrate the day, I only hoped that for Father’s Day 2016, I’d be right along with them… and I am.  I am a proud dad of the most special little boy!!

Our son is only a few months old and doesn’t understand what we’re celebrating today.  But, I know.  And I couldn’t be happier.  Finally, I get to enjoy this day – starting today and for the rest of our lives – eating pancakes alongside the other dads and sons.

You know what’s even more exciting?  Thinking about the years ahead when we finish the day off on a father-son boating, fishing, and hiking trip.  Just us guys, enjoying ourselves as we get dirty and eat lots of junk food that’s not approved by mom HAHAHA!!  I can’t wait!

For all of you on the dad-to-be journey, I wish you all the luck in the world.  I know the road isn’t easy, but hang in there; especially for your wife or partner’s sake.  If you’re anything like me, you almost feel powerless; you wish you can take away the tears and hurt and pain but can’t.

As men, we want to fix everything, but with infertility, you’re limited on what you can do.  To be honest, patience is your best tool.  Always remember you’re in this ‘fight’ together.  You should allow this time to bring the two of you closer by talking about the process and sharing in the decision-making that’s best for your family.  Do not ever say – “It’s whatever you want.”  Have an opinion and be her comfort.  Most importantly, never let her feel like this is her fault.

What worked well for Trisha and me was finding a hobby the two of us enjoyed together.  We would hike a few days out of the month; it was great.  She also started “collecting” puppies and, as much as I didn’t want us to have any dogs, it was what made her happy and helped with the “void” – so puppies we got.  As a matter of fact, we now have three of them.  And, to be honest, the dogs brought each of us comfort during our struggle, and I’m thankful for each them.

Other advice I can give… attend as many, if not every, appointment you can with your wife or partner.  When she cries, let her – and don’t ever say “it will be okay” because that’s not what she wants to hear right now.   She hears that enough from people outside of the home.  From you, she needs to hear that together the two of you will get through the struggle, and whatever is in store for your future, you will accept and accept together.  Remind her you didn’t marry her for the children, although they will definitely be a blessing.  Instead remind her you married her because you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her.  No matter what, you want to be there for her.  Every. Step. Of. The. Way.

Again, from one father to one-to-be, best of luck to you.  I’m telling you, you don’t know what smiling is until you see those eyes looking up at you for the first time.  Being a father is amazing… it’s the greatest gift God (and the egg bank LOL) can give to a man.  I love my son with all of my heart, and I will teach him how to love with all of his heart, too.



From Trisha – Let’s Chat!

I like to talk a lot – not only vocally but with my fingers.  Send me your thoughts and questions to  I promise to respond as promptly as possible.  Below is a list of planned blog topics, but if you have additional topics to suggest, as they relate to trying to conceive through donor options, please let me know.


The decision journey Part I: The beginning of my fertility journey and the decision to use donor eggs

The decision journey Part II: Deliberating fresh v. frozen eggs

The decision journey Part III: Finding the right donor

How the process worked once I found my donor, and the cradle-to-grave (or “big fat positive” [BFP]) process

Resources I used throughout the decision process

Our future – What stories will we share with friends/family and our child(ren) – Next Blog

Trisha’s Journey to Motherhood – A Donor Egg Blog Series

[Download Trisha’s entire blog series in PDF form here]

The following blog is the first installation of our inaugural Client Perspective guest blog series.  We are proud to introduce Trisha H. and the story she wishes to share about her journey to motherhood. The words are all her own.

The Decision Journey Part I: The Beginning of My Fertility Journey and the Decision to Use Donor Eggs

Hello, ladies. Welcome to my first blog series!

I hope you are well on your way to what will be one of the most exciting experiences of your entire life. I know I’m there.

Every day I feel the little thumps in my belly, I do mental cartwheels and somersaults (because let’s face it, I barely have the energy and coordination to walk in a straight line these days), while grinning from ear-to-ear in disbelief and with pure excitement.  After years of trying to conceive, never did I think I would one day be wobbling around with a little jelly bean growing inside of me.  As I type, he is bouncing all over the place… thank you double shot hot cocoa!

I guess you are probably wondering who I am, so I’ll just go ahead and introduce myself.  My name is Trisha and I am a 38 year old working professional who has gone through seven failed IUI and three failed IVF cycles using my own eggs. After my last two IVF cycles resulted in a total of 30+ poor quality eggs, we decided, through the support of our reproductive endocrinologist (RE), to opt for donor eggs.  Never in a million years did I think we would go with this option, but my goodness, am I ever so happy we did. Not only does it cost about the same, if not slightly less (depending on whether you choose frozen or fresh), than the traditional IVF procedures, it is also more promising if, like me, you can’t conceive using your own eggs.

I hope you will continue to join me in some ‘mommy-to-be’ chats over the next few months.  I plan to share my experiences with you, answer all of your questions, and help you arrive at the decision that is best for your family and you through your baby-making journey.  I know it is not an easy decision, especially to use “someone else’s” eggs.  But please – I BEG YOU, do not look at it like that… (I’ll wait while you toss that thought out of your head for good).  Listen, nobody can ever tell me this baby growing in my belly is anything less than my very own, as my blood and snack cravings continue to give him life.  Our connection is so magical that it overrides any thought of us not being genetically tied.  We are connected – PERIOD!  I mean, it was I, who just guzzled down a hot cup of cocoa to wash down my peanut butter and dark chocolate Kind bar.  And, as a result of this delicious snack time option, it is he who is bouncing around in his one and only mother’s belly.  Did I mention how amazing the feeling is of him bouncing around in there?

Okay, let me pause here… I need to save something for the next blog series, right?  I guess this is also a good time for me to tell you, I like to talk a lot – not only vocally but with my fingers.  So let’s chat!  Send me your thoughts and questions to  I promise to respond as promptly as possible.  Below is a list of planned blog topics, but if you have additional topics to suggest, as they relate to trying to conceive through donor options, please let me know.

Click to read Part II: Deliberating fresh vs. frozen eggs


The decision journey Part I: The beginning of my fertility journey and the decision to use donor eggs

The decision journey Part II: Deliberating fresh v. frozen eggs

The decision journey Part III: Finding the right donor

Part IV :How the donor egg process worked once I found my egg donor, and the cradle-to-grave (or “big fat positive” [BFP]) process

Part V: Resources I used throughout the decision process

Part VI: Our future – What stories will we share with friends/family and our child(ren)

2016 Calendar for Fertility Professionals

Need key events for 2017? Download our 2017 calendar here.

The following calendar is intended for professionals serving in the fertility, reproductive medicine, and advanced reproductive technology field.

We created the following 2016 calendar to help professionals in our industry be mindful of relevant events, observances, and fertility and IVF conferences throughout the year. These events are united in their aim to spread awareness, advance education, and provide appreciation to tireless colleagues helping patients conceive.

To download the free calendar, complete with conference hyperlinks, click here.

Notable events, observances and conferences:


Monday, 1/4-5 – Fifth Southwest Embryology Summit


Wednesday, 3/9-13 – The 64th Annual Meeting of the Pacific Coast Reproductive Society

Wednesday, 3/30 – Doctor’s Day


Friday, 4/1-3 – New England Fertility Society 14th Annual Meeting/2nd Quarterly Meeting

Sunday, 4/24-30 – Medical Laboratory Professionals Week

Sunday, 4/24-30 – National Infertility Awareness Week®

Wednesday, 4/27 – Administrative Professionals Day

Thursday, 4/28 – The Donor Egg Meeting


Friday, 5/6-12 – National Nurses Week

Sunday, 5/8-14 – National Women’s Health Week

Thursday, 5/12-14 – American Association of Bioanalysts 60th Anniversary Educational Conference


Thursday, 6/16 – Midwest Reproductive Symposium 2016

Monday, 6/13 – Men’s Health Week


Sunday, 7/3-6 – ESHRE Annual Meeting

Sunday, 7/17-20 – 29th Annual IVF and Embryo Transfer Conference

Monday, 7/25 – World Embryologist Day


PCOS Awareness Month


Saturday, 10/15-19 – 72nd Annual Meeting of the ASRM

Saturday, 10/15 – Pregnancy and Infertility Loss Awareness Day

Sunday, 10/16 – Boss’ Day


TBD SART data due

Support and More: Infertility Resources


If you’re struggling with infertility, the world can feel a little lonely at times as you navigate a sea of options. But you’re not alone. Many people are going through the same thing you are, and they can offer support, advocacy, and information. Here’s a short roundup of organizations, support and educational web sites, and infertility blogs we recommend.

  • RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association is a well-known national organization advocating for and supporting infertility patients. They offer support groups around the country, publications, a directory of providers, and much more. They also advocate on a national and local level for policies and legislation that affect the infertile community. The Walk of Hope is their annual community and fundraising event; see if there’s one near you! They also sponsor National Infertility Awareness Week every year.
  • is the patient-centered site from The American Society for Reproductive Medicine. It’s an exhaustive guide to fertility, with a complete topics index, lists of publications, and directories of providers. You can also keep up on the latest scientific studies and discoveries in the fertility field.
  • People dealing with infertility know how emotionally difficult it can be. The Infertility Therapist is a recently restarted blog addressing the emotional aspects of experiencing infertility. It’s written by Lisa Rouff, PhD, a clinical psychologist who specializes in infertility counseling.
  • Trained therapists can help with individual sessions, workshops, and support groups. Try asking your own clinic to see if they have any recommendations for therapists specializing in infertility issues. For example, The Genetics & IVF Institute, our parent company, offers support groups and workshops for fertility patients in Northern Virginia with professional therapist Phyllis F. Martin. RESOLVE provides a thorough list of professional services around the country aimed at infertility patients and features a directory of mental health specialists.
  • Creating a Family is the national adoption and infertility education organization, offering blogs, radio shows, and much more. They pride themselves on being an unbiased source of information about all things related to family building. Recently they hosted a radio show on Preserving Your Fertility When Diagnosed with Cancer, featuring Dr. Michelle Ottey, from Fairfax Cryobank, our sister company and Dr. Stephen Lincoln and Lauren Haring, Co-Founders of the Fertility Preservation Center for Cancer Patients at GIVF.
  • Bloggers can be a great support network if you’re feeling isolated, especially when they’re written by someone who’s already walked in your shoes. Sometimes a new perspective or a dose of humor can really help. The Infertility Voice is great jumping-off point to other blogs, more information, and support. Another blog to check out isThe Stirrup Queens. It was created by author Melissa Ford; she blogs on many topics, including infertility, and her site offers humor, insight, book reviews, links to other bloggers and peer counselors, and lots more.

These are just a few places to start looking online (and in real life) as you search for answers and hope on your infertility journey. Know of another great resource or blog to share? Please share it in our comments or on our Facebook page!