First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes…Infertility?

Fairfax EggBank has partnered with Parents Via Egg Donation (PVED) to launch a blog series written by Heather, a recent egg donor recipient at Fairfax EggBank. Our hope is that through PVED, Heather’s voice can be shared with others who are just beginning their donor egg journey and are seeking authentic experiences of others who have been through it.

Stay tuned through either PVED’s website or ours to read Heather’s upcoming blogs.

Heather’s Blog Series:

#1: INTRO TO MY DONOR EGG STORY

#2: FIRST COMES LOVE, THEN COMES MARRIAGE, THEN COMES…INFERTILITY?

Tune in next week to read Heather’s next blog “How Our Needs Guided the Decision to Use Frozen Donor Eggs.” 


About PVED

Parents Via Egg Donation, or PVED, was created to provide an informational and supportive environment where parents and parents-to-be can learn and share information about all facets of the egg donation process.

Our mission is to educate, support, and empower families and individuals at any stage of the process who choose to use egg donation to build a family. We share information about agencies, legal and medical professionals, treatment centers, mental health therapists, pharmaceutical companies, and other resources.

PVED is a national, not-for-profit 501(c)(3) charitable organization headquartered in Scappoose, Oregon

Their website contains a wide variety of information and ideas to help you in your family-building journey. If you can’t find what you are looking for, our listserves can link you to others who may have had similar experiences and are happy to share their knowledge.


Intro to My Donor Egg Story

Fairfax EggBank has partnered with Parents Via Egg Donation (PVED) to launch a blog series written by Heather, a recent egg donor recipient at Fairfax EggBank. Our hope is that through PVED, Heather’s voice can be shared with others who are just beginning their donor egg journey and are seeking authentic experiences of others who have been through it.

Read the first series here, and stay tuned through either PVED’s website or ours to read Heather’s upcoming blogs.

HEATHER’S BLOG SERIES #1: INTRO TO MY DONOR EGG STORY

 


About PVED

Parents Via Egg Donation, or PVED, was created to provide an informational and supportive environment where parents and parents-to-be can learn and share information about all facets of the egg donation process.

Our mission is to educate, support, and empower families and individuals at any stage of the process who choose to use egg donation to build a family. We share information about agencies, legal and medical professionals, treatment centers, mental health therapists, pharmaceutical companies, and other resources.

PVED is a national, not-for-profit 501(c)(3) charitable organization headquartered in Scappoose, Oregon

Their website contains a wide variety of information and ideas to help you in your family-building journey. If you can’t find what you are looking for, our listserves can link you to others who may have had similar experiences and are happy to share their knowledge.


Thank You Letter from a Recipient to Her Egg Donor

Below is a recent letter from an egg donor recipient, who wanted to express anonymously to her egg donor just how grateful she was.

Hello,

I don’t know even where to begin with my gratitude to you.  I know that you and I will never meet, but I want you to know every day I am so thankful you have given me and my husband hope to become parents.  I think about the sacrifice it took for you to be selfless to help people have a family.

When I started the donor egg process, I have to admit I was thinking I wouldn’t find someone who matched me or had the same values as me.  After reading your profile there were so many similarities.  You and I were both softball players and we have a lot of the same physical features, but the biggest reason why I chose you was how you wanted your kids to be kind.  That is what I have always wanted for my children.

I don’t think you realize what you have given to our family. We are now excited and hopeful for the future.  When I was diagnosed with my form of infertility, which was premature ovarian failure, I was so scared and anxious about the future.  We now have a plan something to look forward to.  Please know we consider you an angel.  I thank God every day for you giving us this opportunity.  Both of us have longed for a baby for so long and because of you we are one step closer.

I hope that every woman that goes through this finds an egg donor that fits them as perfect as I did.  I will continue to be thankful for you every day for the rest of my life.  Once again thank you, thank you, thank you!  I am forever grateful and you will always have a special place in our hearts.

 

Sincerely,

Your donor egg recipient


Fairfax EggBank’s Zika Virus Protocol

UPDATED FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE:  3/29/2016

Fairfax EggBank has been closely monitoring all new information on the Zika virus in order to protect our clients.

Based on the FDA guidelines and CDC recommendations, Fairfax EggBank has further tightened its policy, effective 3/29/16, to help prevent viral transmission of Zika. These actions are conservative precautions since there is no known case of Zika virus transmission through the use of donor eggs.

Donor guidelines:

Fairfax EggBank routinely collects information from our egg donors regarding any travel to a potentially infected area and travel of their sexually intimate partners.

  • Any donor who has traveled to a Zika area will be deferred to donate for 6 months
  • Egg donors with known and/or suspected Zika virus infection will not be allowed to donate until resolution of symptoms and a deferral of 6 months
  • Any applicant moving forward in the egg donation process is advised:
    • Not to travel to areas of active Zika virus transmission, and
    • If she had sex with an individual with Zika risk factors, she will be deferred to donate for 6 months

Recipient guidelines:

  • Please consult your health care professional for guidance and recommendations.

As new information regarding the behavior of Zika becomes available, we will update our policies and inform our donors and recipients. For more information regarding Zika please refer to the Center for Disease Control webpage.

As always, we remain deeply committed to ensuring our recipients conceive healthy babies. If you have any questions for Fairfax EggBank, contact us.


Why Donate Eggs? A Donor Egg Coordinator Shares Her Story

 

Why do egg donors decide to donate? As a donor egg coordinator for the past 15 years, I have been blessed to work with hundreds of donors and recipients. And I hear this question a lot.

They decide to donate because they care; because they have friends who have struggled to conceive; because they want to do something for others. Sure, the money is a nice bonus, but the money is fleeting. Donating eggs takes a very dedicated individual. The donors we know donate because it feels like the right thing to do.

Many recipients may not be aware of an egg donor’s journey and how she got to the place of being a fully screened donor. A donor has to undergo months of screening tests before compensation is even a possibility—and after that she has to undergo an IVF cycle to retrieve her oocytes before reaching full compensation. At Fairfax EggBank we accept less than 1% of those who apply to become a donor.

All in all, the minimum time frame is four months from screening to egg retrieval. Many potential egg donors start the process, and then quickly self-select out. For them, the investment of time isn’t worth the possibility of future compensation. Only egg donors who are truly motivated and have altruistic intentions to help others stay the course—and that motivation goes above and beyond the compensation.

Once starting an egg donation cycle, the donor’s life becomes quite regimented, following a strict schedule of appointments, injections, more appointments and more injections until the egg retrieval occurs. Donor egg coordinators speak to the egg donors almost daily during this time frame. Some are excited, some are exhausted, and some are scared.

Yet no matter how they feel, almost every single one I’ve worked with has asked me how their counterparts—the patients struggling with infertility— are doing. So many of them have expressed how they feel a great responsibility to do the injections correctly, to do everything as carefully as possible because they know how important this is to someone else.

After all, someone’s dreams are on the line.

And I think that says something important about our egg donors: They feel so much compassion for women they have never met. Only rarely do we see an egg donor who seems disinterested in the process. (Donor egg coordinators are very keen to pick up on this; egg donors who seem irresponsible are flagged by the coordinators, as we take their role very seriously.) Again, we see that money is not the prime motivation for our successful egg donors who make it all the way through this process.

Because of my role, I am often asked why an egg donor would donate. As the “middleman” on a very private journey, I have seen firsthand the reasons women donate. I have spoken with them about motivation, and my experience has taught me something very valuable: egg donors may originally be enticed by the money, but they don’t stay with the program for that reason. There is something else compelling them to proceed: a commitment to help.


Give the Gift of Hope to Families – Consider Egg Donation

At Fairfax EggBank, we speak with a wide range of patients and hear their stories. We all love the excited, grateful phone calls and emails from patients who have become pregnant and are enjoying their new babies. Those happy stories make our jobs worthwhile on a personal level.

Sadly, we also share in stories of frustration and heartbreak. As young women, we look forward to exciting careers, finding the right partner and eventually starting a family.   For many of us, starting a family is something we assume will happen down the road. Most of us could not imagine a life where our traditions are not passed down to our children or where our parents are not blessed with grandchildren.

Medical science has advanced significantly, and there is hope for women who need assistance to become pregnant. More and more this hope comes in the form of egg donation and donor egg ivf. However, even when a wide range of diverse egg donors is available, sometimes Asian families in particular have a hard time finding the right donor.  It’s no surprise that couples look for eggs from donors that have a compatible background. Patients have usually already gone through a long process of visits to fertility specialists before deciding to build a family using donor eggs. Imagine not finding the right donor after already being on such a long journey.

This is why, more than ever, we need the precious gift of donor eggs from donors of all ethnicities. This is where you can help. If you’re interested in becoming an egg donor and want to learn more, read on for more about how you can help.

Fairfax EggBank recruits egg donors all year round. We are seeking healthy women of all ethnicities to become anonymous or ID option egg donors and help infertile couples create a family. Once accepted into our egg donor program, egg donors receive $500 upon completion of screening process, and up to $8,000 for their time and travel at the conclusion of each completed egg donation cycle. Some of our egg donors have gone on to complete 6 donation cycles and received $8,000 for each completed cycle — it’s their choice as to how many times to donate. We always keep our egg donors’ identifiable information strictly confidential.

Here’s a quick snapshot of the attributes we look for in successful egg donors:

  • Healthy, educated women between ages 19 to 31
  • Reside within 2 hours of one of our partnered clinics
  • Good family medical history
  • Ability to commit to the time requirements of the egg donor program

Our egg donors provide a tremendous service to our patients. Read our egg donor stories to get three different perspectives from very special women who chose to donate eggs. If you feel you meet our above requirements, please complete our online application form at our donor site www.eggdonorcentral.com.  Consider becoming an egg donor and know that your donation represents hope to our families struggling to conceive.