Common Questions One May Have When Considering using a Fairfax Egg Donor

 

Thankfully, today individuals and couples who struggle with infertility have more options than ever before. Egg donation, and the use of frozen eggs has opened up the selection of finding your ideal donor. We understand that when considering using donor eggs, you will have many questions about the donor, process, costs and more.

We’ve done the legwork for you – here are answers to common questions about egg donation:

What will I know about my potential donor?

Here at FairFax Eggbank, all potential donors go through an extensive screening process where we gather important information to assist in the process of choosing an egg donor.

  • Medical Information: We provide a full medical history profile of each donor, including genetics, behavioral, personal and family medical history across three generations.
  • Personal Information: You will also receive a detailed profile that will cover personal information such as personality traits, motivations, goals, ambitions, interests and religion. We also provide the donor’s academic history and a detailed list of physical and facial features. Similar information on the donor’s parents and extended family members such as academic history and occupation will also be provided.
  • Photos: You can view childhood photos within the donor profile, as well as professionally shot adulthood photos if you sign a confidentiality agreement form where you agree not to seek the identity of the donor.
  • Personal essays and interviews: Important pieces of the donor profile include personal essays and audio interviews which allow you to get a better idea of that donor’s personality.In summary, you have access to a tremendous amount of information about any potential donor so you can make the most informed decision when choosing a donor for yourself.

How can I be sure Fairfax EggBank egg donors will produce viable eggs?

More IVF clinics partner with Fairfax EggBank than any other egg bank, because of the trust they have in our experience and expertise.

Fairfax EggBank began in 2006 as part of the popular fresh donor egg IVF program at the Genetics & IVF Institute (GIVF). Fairfax EggBank is a subsidiary of the GIVF along with Fairfax Cryobank, one of the nation’s largest sperm banks that has been in operation for over 30 years.

As a sibling company to Fairfax Cryobank we are uniquely situated, born out of a successful and tested model for gamete cryopreservation and shipping. Our clinicians and embryologists have worked with donors and recipients for decades and pride ourselves on delivering state-of-the-art medical science. You can learn our most recent success rates here.

Fairfax EggBank is confident in the quality of its donors, the expertise of its scientists, and the experience it has in freezing eggs. That’s why our guarantee offers such a strong assurance: we offer a frozen donor egg guarantee of at least one good embryo from your purchased cohorts of donor eggs with the security of a replacement cohort if the first’s quality standard is not met. For a more detailed description of our screening process, click here.

How much does egg donation cost?

We understand that going through this process can be both emotionally and financially straining. Therefore, we structure our pricing in a simple and straightforward manner, with no hidden fees or unexpected costs. Frozen donor eggs can also be more cost-effective, costing less than half of what a single fresh donor egg cycle costs. When it comes to donor egg pricing, a cohort of donor eggs (6-8 eggs) costs $14,900 plus $490 shipping. We do offer various financing options and discount programs as well. We encourage you to check out our blog that discusses tips and resources for financing donor egg treatment to find ways to make donor eggs more affordable.

Can I obtain a medical or billing code to submit to my insurance for reimbursement?

As a human tissue bank, Fairfax EggBank is not a healthcare provider and does not participate in insurance plans.  We are unaware of any CPT, HCPCS, or other medical or billing codes for purchased donor egg cohorts on a stand-alone basis. As such, we will not be able to provide clients with a code to submit to their insurance plans for reimbursement.

What is the difference between frozen and fresh donor eggs?

Frozen donor eggs are rapidly growing in popularity, as patients demand it more and more IVF clinics embrace the technology. There is even a growing opinion among clinicians that eventually, we will live in a world where only frozen donor eggs are offered.

  • Frozen donor eggs: Since the donors are already pre-screened, have frozen donor eggs ready to ship, and don’t need to have cycles synchronized, recipients can select their donor, be guaranteed to receive a set number of good-quality eggs, and initiate a cycle quicker. Thus, frozen donor eggs are seen to be much more convenient and reliable, and give recipients a greater sense of control over time – something that they feel they do not have enough of in their quest to conceive a child. Frozen donor eggs can also be more cost-effective, as there are less expenses involved in undergoing an egg donation cycle.
  • Fresh donor eggs: While fresh donor eggs can result in more eggs for the recipient to use, there is more risk, time, and potential expense involved. Once a recipient chooses a donor, the donor will need to pass additional testing requirements; there’s a risk that she’ll either fail screening tests or even change her mind about donating. If she passes screening requirements, you must then time your cycle by synchronizing your availability with the donor’s menstrual cycle and availability. And if she does move forward to complete an egg donation cycle, there’s also a risk that the egg retrieval may yield few or no eggs, though you’ll still be responsible for all costs regardless of success.

Learn other differences between fresh and frozen donor eggs here.

Where does my treatment cycle and embryo transfer take place?

Fairfax EggBank partners with over 200+ IVF clinics across the United States, Canada, and Brazil. These clinics have been specially trained by our Fairfax EggBank embryologist to warm frozen donor eggs according to our protocol in order to achieve optimal success. Fairfax EggBank will ship eggs to any of these clinics.

You can view the list of partnering IVF clinics here. If you don’t see your preferred clinic, then not to worry: simply let your clinic and let them know you are interested in proceeding with a frozen donor egg cycle using eggs from the Fairfax EggBank, and our team will execute the steps to forge a partnership.

If I use donor eggs, will the baby be mine?

100% yes! The donor waives all rights to her donor eggs. Egg donors assume no responsibility or liability for any child conceived by your donation.

Can I meet my egg donor?

We offer the option for our egg donors to be completely anonymous, or to be an “ID Option” donor. If an egg donor chooses the ID Option, she agrees to allow us to release her identity and contact information only to the donor-conceived child, not the recipients of donor eggs, once that child reaches the age of 18 and requests the information. As a recipient, you may choose whether to go with an anonymous or ID Option donor. For more information about our ID Option Donor Program, click here.

 

We hope that this blog has been able to answer some questions you may have. If you want to learn more about the egg donation process be sure to check out our FAQ page for more answers to common questions. You’ve got this, parent-to-be!

If your question is not listed here feel free to message us so a team member can answer any additional or more specific questions you may have.

 


Three Valuable Resources for Donor Egg Research

Fairfax EggBank has partnered with Parents Via Egg Donation (PVED) to launch a blog series written by Heather, a recent egg donor recipient at Fairfax EggBank. Our hope is that through PVED, Heather’s voice can be shared with others who are just beginning their donor egg journey and are seeking authentic experiences of others who have been through it.

Stay tuned through either PVED’s website or ours to read Heather’s upcoming blogs.

Three Resources to Use for Your Donor Egg Research

If you’re considering donor eggs, I’d like to share with you some resources I used to make the process easier. I’d be lying if I told you this was a total breeze. It does take a little bit of leg work, but every step is worth it. This is a major decision in your life that I hope turns out to the best one yet!

Take Advantage of Your Donor Egg Company

My main resource for knowledge on the process was FairFax EggBank. I was fortunate to work with such a special donor coordinator there. Maybe it was because she and my best friend share the same name, or maybe it is because she is just that awesome! She was very knowledgeable, kind and patient.  Many times there would be a question or two that would pop in to my head and I would dial her. Having this type of accessibility to a caring, responsive and knowledgeable human being is very crucial in this process. You want to make sure you choose a company that you feel comfortable with since believe me, it sure does help with the stress.

Join Group Boards on Baby Apps

Downloading baby apps may sound a little elementary; however, using them was a game changer for me. I used BabyBump Pregnancy Pro and What to Expect When You’re Expecting quite a bit.

These apps not only have a ton of information in relation to pregnancy, they also have group boards that people join and chat about all sorts of different topics. One of these topics that I found to be extremely useful was Donor Eggs. I was able to connect anonymously with women all over the world and read all sorts of posts, questions, and stories of others. I bonded with these internet friends and used them as a resource for information, as well as for friendship. We gave support and encouraged one another with our stories. It truly was one thing that strongly helped me through this process.

Use the Power of the Internet

Our computers and smartphones give us all the answers we need to know. Through my online research, I easily found information on the positives and negatives of fresh and frozen donor eggs, costs, and different egg banks.

Fairfax EggBank’s website also has a wealth of information. Everything that I had questions about was answered on the site.

Have questions for Heather? E-mail success@fairfaxeggbank.com

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Heather’s Blog Series:

#1: Intro to my Donor Egg Story

#2: First Comes Love, then Comes Marriage, then Comes…Infertility?

#3: Our Decision to Use Frozen Donor Eggs

#4: Selecting an Egg Donor

#5: Three Resources to Use for Your Donor Egg Research


About PVED

Parents Via Egg Donation, or PVED, was created to provide an informational and supportive environment where parents and parents-to-be can learn and share information about all facets of the egg donation process.

Our mission is to educate, support, and empower families and individuals at any stage of the process who choose to use egg donation to build a family. We share information about agencies, legal and medical professionals, treatment centers, mental health therapists, pharmaceutical companies, and other resources.

PVED is a national, not-for-profit 501(c)(3) charitable organization headquartered in Scappoose, Oregon

Their website contains a wide variety of information and ideas to help you in your family-building journey. If you can’t find what you are looking for, our listserves can link you to others who may have had similar experiences and are happy to share their knowledge.


Selecting an Egg Donor

Fairfax EggBank has partnered with Parents Via Egg Donation (PVED) to launch a blog series written by Heather, a recent egg donor recipient at Fairfax EggBank. Our hope is that through PVED, Heather’s voice can be shared with others who are just beginning their donor egg journey and are seeking authentic experiences of others who have been through it.

Stay tuned through either PVED’s website or ours to read Heather’s upcoming blogs.

Selecting an Egg Donor

Fairfax EggBank made it easier than anticipated to find an egg donor who was right for us, not just because how awesome my donor coordinator was, but also because of how detailed the donor profiles were. I was able to dig into each donor I liked, learning her and her family’s detailed medical history, her hobbies and achievements, childhood and current photos (professionally shot, no selfies!), and personal essays. I especially liked the audio interviews between the donor and Fairfax EggBank coordinators; while I wanted our donor to be anonymous, I loved that sense of connection I felt through hearing the donor’s voice.

My husband and I narrowed down our choices to four donors based on our priorities: preferably, the donor would look like me, have at least a college degree, have the same blood type, and be similar in age.  We learned two of these donors had proven success (meaning recipients before me had used their eggs and conceived) and decided to sleep on the decision to figure out which donor we should go with. Alas, good donors can go like hotcakes, and by the time we contacted our Fairfax EggBank coordinator, only one of the two donors still had eggs left. Figuring fate had made the decision for us, we chose to move forward with the one.

Undergoing the Best Transfer Yet

I will never forget the message “your eggs have arrived safely and are anxiously awaiting transfer!” This was the note my fertility clinic sent, letting me know the eggs were tucked away in their lab and ready for me. To say I was excited was an understatement. I remember doing my baseline, and my reproductive endocrinologist telling me all systems were ready to go. I started my meds and everything went well. I was not used to cycles going smoothly; I was used to many heartaches and setbacks just trying to even start. This was all something new to me.

In fact, this IVF cycle was unlike any other; it was super simple. My clinic’s lab was able to create 4 blastocysts from my 6 eggs. They even moved up the transfer of our embryos two weeks as my body was responding so well. Uh, what?? This never happens! I just knew this was going to be my miracle cycle. When we did the transfer I remember feeling very relaxed, which was nothing like the previous times. Everything from the get-go was smooth, and I was very thankful for that.

Getting the BFP

Let’s be honest – how many IVF patients actually have the patience to wait until their blood test to confirm if they’re pregnant or not? I know I couldn’t resist, especially given how positive I felt this time around.

About a week after our transfer, I cheated and took a home pregnancy test. That’s when I saw the words “PREGNANT” for the very first time in my entire life. I repeat, my very FIRST time. I had never been pregnant in my life.

How Pregnancy Feels

I’m still waiting for my baby to arrive, and it’s still a surreal feeling to have a baby in my belly. While it wasn’t my first choice to choose donor eggs in order to have a baby, now I often forget that donor eggs were even used. We simply can’t wait to meet our baby, and are so thankful there are companies like Fairfax EggBank out there to make our dreams a reality.

They say that the idea of parenting never happens the way you want it to. I think that’s true in every case; however the outcome is always the same. If a donor egg baby is the outcome for you, you will have so much joy in your life that you will never look back, I promise.

I’ve waited to tell you the best for last, we’re pregnant with twins! Both embryos took, how amazing is that!

 

Have questions for Heather? E-mail success@fairfaxeggbank.com

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Heather’s Blog Series:

#1: Intro to my Donor Egg Story

#2: First Comes Love, then Comes Marriage, then Comes…Infertility?

#3: Our Decision to Use Frozen Donor Eggs

#4: Selecting an Egg Donor

#5: Three Resources to Use for Your Donor Egg Research


About PVED

Parents Via Egg Donation, or PVED, was created to provide an informational and supportive environment where parents and parents-to-be can learn and share information about all facets of the egg donation process.

Our mission is to educate, support, and empower families and individuals at any stage of the process who choose to use egg donation to build a family. We share information about agencies, legal and medical professionals, treatment centers, mental health therapists, pharmaceutical companies, and other resources.

PVED is a national, not-for-profit 501(c)(3) charitable organization headquartered in Scappoose, Oregon

Their website contains a wide variety of information and ideas to help you in your family-building journey. If you can’t find what you are looking for, our listserves can link you to others who may have had similar experiences and are happy to share their knowledge.


Our Decision to Use Frozen Donor Eggs

Fairfax EggBank has partnered with Parents Via Egg Donation (PVED) to launch a blog series written by Heather, a recent egg donor recipient at Fairfax EggBank. Our hope is that through PVED, Heather’s voice can be shared with others who are just beginning their donor egg journey and are seeking authentic experiences of others who have been through it.

Stay tuned through either PVED’s website or ours to read Heather’s upcoming blogs.

Our Decision to Use Frozen Donor Eggs

Once we decided to pursue donor egg treatment, we did extensive research to figure out how we could find the best egg donor out there in the world to help us conceive.

We learned there were two major options available to start: fresh donor eggs and frozen donor eggs. There are advantages and disadvantages to either option, and so we carefully assessed our needs and evaluated how strongly each option measured up to them.

Need #1: Anonymity. We knew we didn’t want someone who we knew, or someone who was in an open donation program. Though many fresh programs offer anonymous egg donors, we felt frozen donor egg banks offered a much bigger selection of anonymous donors.

Need #2: Timing and Control. I frankly didn’t want to deal with the effort of being matched to a donor, having her undergo screening, then synchronizing cycles with her – which is the process when using fresh donor eggs. I wanted to do this treatment on MY time, for once – and not feel like I’m a victim to time and factors outside of my control.

Need #3: Cost. Through my research, I learned frozen donor eggs would cost about half the amount of fresh donor eggs. This was huge to us as we had already invested so much into treatment.

Need #4: Reliability. We were sick of bad surprises that could prolong treatment and make it even more expensive.  With fresh donor eggs, it’s harder to know what to expect: maybe we’d get a bunch of donor eggs from the donor, but there’s also a chance we’d get none. With frozen donor eggs, we knew we’d be guaranteed at least six to eight eggs, and that egg banks also offer a guarantee in the quality of eggs.

Need #5: Good Service. Throughout our journey, often times we felt like part of a cattle herd alongside other patients, and our care was rather impersonal. By that time we were ready to pursue donor egg, we were EXHAUSTED, mentally and physically. While not a deal breaker, it was important to us to be able to work with a donor egg company that was known for valuing and taking care of its recipients. And while we knew of no distinction between fresh and frozen donor egg companies in this regard, we did hear that Fairfax EggBank, a frozen donor egg bank, was particularly well known for its customer service.

After weighing our priorities, it was a no-brainer: frozen donor eggs were a better option for us. At this point, I started to get very excited. I finally felt that I MIGHT be able to be a mom. We had gone through so many disappointments, so I was reluctant to get my hopes up too much…but all I knew was that frozen donor eggs was the right choice for me.

I contacted Fairfax EggBank, and the donor coordinator I talked to further confirmed we made the right decision. I ended up working with her throughout my process, and she was beyond amazing. I seriously cannot praise her enough. When I talked to her the first time, I literally felt like she and I were friends for years. I could call her four times in an hour with questions if I needed (which, I’ll admit, I totally did).  She was so encouraging yet down to earth, and it made the experience that much better.

 

Have questions for Heather? E-mail success@fairfaxeggbank.com

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Heather’s Blog Series:

#1: Intro to my Donor Egg Story

#2: First Comes Love, then Comes Marriage, then Comes…Infertility?

#3: Our Decision to Use Frozen Donor Eggs

#4: Selecting an Egg Donor

#5: Three Resources to Use for Your Donor Egg Research


About PVED

Parents Via Egg Donation, or PVED, was created to provide an informational and supportive environment where parents and parents-to-be can learn and share information about all facets of the egg donation process.

Our mission is to educate, support, and empower families and individuals at any stage of the process who choose to use egg donation to build a family. We share information about agencies, legal and medical professionals, treatment centers, mental health therapists, pharmaceutical companies, and other resources.

PVED is a national, not-for-profit 501(c)(3) charitable organization headquartered in Scappoose, Oregon

Their website contains a wide variety of information and ideas to help you in your family-building journey. If you can’t find what you are looking for, our listserves can link you to others who may have had similar experiences and are happy to share their knowledge.


First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes…Infertility?

Fairfax EggBank has partnered with Parents Via Egg Donation (PVED) to launch a blog series written by Heather, a recent egg donor recipient at Fairfax EggBank. Our hope is that through PVED, Heather’s voice can be shared with others who are just beginning their donor egg journey and are seeking authentic experiences of others who have been through it.

Stay tuned through either PVED’s website or ours to read Heather’s upcoming blogs.

First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes…Infertility?

“You won’t be able to have a baby on your own”: Words that no one wishing to conceive wants to hear. Frankly, I wish no couple or individual has to hear them.

I don’t have to tell you about how this all feels like being a roller coaster; you’re most likely a reluctant rider too.

I embarked on my roller coaster ride in my late 20’s, though everything else took off as planned initially. It started by finally meeting the man I had been waiting for; the one whom I couldn’t wait to start a life with. We had a fairytale wedding and moved into our dream home together. Having a child was the next item down on our checklist. But, as months turned into a year with no pregnancy to bear, we turned to see a reproductive endocrinologist to see if he can easily fix our issue. Boy, was I wrong thinking it would be easy.

The Diagnosis

After my reproductive endocrinologist took what felt like half of my weight in blood to test for hormones and diseases, followed by a laparoscopy, he gave me my diagnosis: endometriosis. I had the severe type: the type that distorts pelvic anatomy and gets in the way of making a baby.

I still thought it wouldn’t be difficult to conceive despite this diagnosis. I figured drug treatment can help suppress endometriosis, and once I did the baby dance at the right time, BAM! I’d be pregnant.  Well, it obviously didn’t happen that way.

Months later, I developed a large ovarian cyst that caused me to be very, very sick. I couldn’t work for two months and it got so bad that I needed emergency surgery. Devastatingly, from this surgery I lost my ovary, fallopian tube, and appendix.

The pain I felt post-operation was indescribable, and it lasted over a month. Despite this, I pushed myself like heck to heal. I wanted to start IVF so badly, especially knowing my chances of conceiving naturally were that much lower with one ovary.

The Path to Donor Egg

To my excitement, in just two months after surgery, I was cleared to start IVF. However, the endometriosis and ovarian cysts still got in the way, and over the course of two years I completed two IVF cycles and one FET cycle – all resulting in BFNs (“big fat negatives” for those not on infertility boards).

My doctor explained that my egg quality was most likely being impacted by my endometriosis, and that my chance for success in future cycles was low. He recommended we look into donor egg or surrogacy.

My husband and I actually had the conversation two years prior to our journey about using potential donors on either side if we needed to. At that time, my answer was “heck no”.

But now that we were at this critical decision point, we thought about it more. If we chose surrogacy, we wouldn’t have the joy of seeing the first positive pregnancy test, or hear the dulcet sound of a heartbeat. To us, that meant the world.

We decided to pursue donor egg. And I can tell you I have never regretted this decision, not even for a second.

 

Have questions for Heather? E-mail success@fairfaxeggbank.com

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Heather’s Blog Series:

#1: Intro to my Donor Egg Story

#2: First Comes Love, then Comes Marriage, then Comes…Infertility?

#3: Our Decision to Use Frozen Donor Eggs

#4: Selecting an Egg Donor

#5: Three Resources to Use for Your Donor Egg Research


About PVED

Parents Via Egg Donation, or PVED, was created to provide an informational and supportive environment where parents and parents-to-be can learn and share information about all facets of the egg donation process.

Our mission is to educate, support, and empower families and individuals at any stage of the process who choose to use egg donation to build a family. We share information about agencies, legal and medical professionals, treatment centers, mental health therapists, pharmaceutical companies, and other resources.

PVED is a national, not-for-profit 501(c)(3) charitable organization headquartered in Scappoose, Oregon

Their website contains a wide variety of information and ideas to help you in your family-building journey. If you can’t find what you are looking for, our listserves can link you to others who may have had similar experiences and are happy to share their knowledge.


Intro to My Donor Egg Story

Fairfax EggBank has partnered with Parents Via Egg Donation (PVED) to launch a blog series written by Heather, a recent egg donor recipient at Fairfax EggBank. Our hope is that through PVED, Heather’s voice can be shared with others who are just beginning their donor egg journey and are seeking authentic experiences of others who have been through it.

Intro to My Donor Egg Story

If you’re reading this blog, you might be someone who is exploring the decision to use donor eggs. If that’s the case, you probably have a million questions you’re trying to sort out. How did I get to this point? Is donor egg the right choice for me? If so, how do I go about finding an egg donor?  Where do I even start?

I just want to let you know that all this soul searching, the confusion and doubts, the overwhelming feelings…it’s all normal. I’ve been in your exact shoes.

I have been beaten down by an emotional path of failed IVF and FET cycles. I questioned whether I will ever be the mom I’ve always wanted to be. I have been on the roller coaster of infertility with my husband, wondering if we will ever get to share our home with giggling children running down its halls.

But, guess what? I was able to stop that roller coaster…I’m finally pregnant! Donor eggs have given me that opportunity, and I have never looked back.

So, who am I? My name is Heather. I am (almost) 30 years old, and have struggled with infertility for two years. I have a professional career as a CPA. I’m a dog lover. I can be someone who is a tad stubborn…which, to think about it, offered me the strength I needed to never give up on my fight to become a mom. Like many of you, I’ve been through tests, surgeries, shots, retrievals, transfers and more.

I will share with you my journey in the upcoming blog series. Hopefully some of you will relate to my story and find encouragement that there is light at the end of the tunnel. And hopefully, like me, by choosing donors eggs you’ll also be blissfully pregnant a few short months from now.

 

Have questions for Heather? E-mail success@fairfaxeggbank.com

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Heather’s Blog Series:

#1: Intro to my Donor Egg Story

#2: First Comes Love, then Comes Marriage, then Comes…Infertility?

#3: Our Decision to Use Frozen Donor Eggs

#4: Selecting an Egg Donor

#5: Three Resources to Use for Your Donor Egg Research


About PVED

Parents Via Egg Donation, or PVED, was created to provide an informational and supportive environment where parents and parents-to-be can learn and share information about all facets of the egg donation process.

Our mission is to educate, support, and empower families and individuals at any stage of the process who choose to use egg donation to build a family. We share information about agencies, legal and medical professionals, treatment centers, mental health therapists, pharmaceutical companies, and other resources.

PVED is a national, not-for-profit 501(c)(3) charitable organization headquartered in Scappoose, Oregon

Their website contains a wide variety of information and ideas to help you in your family-building journey. If you can’t find what you are looking for, our listserves can link you to others who may have had similar experiences and are happy to share their knowledge.


Our Favorite Donor Egg Blogs

At Fairfax EggBank, our team’s top priority is providing our recipients with the level of care and service they deserve. We aim to help minimize stress throughout their journey and help them achieve their goals to conceive and build a family of their own. Many of our donor egg recipients come to us looking for donor egg success stories. Below is a list of our favorite blogs that share the journeys of women who chose to share their story of starting a family through using an egg donor. While these are not all Fairfax EggBank recipients and the process and experiences they had may not be the same, their stories and advice can provide you will some insight as you pursue your own journey with IVF treatment using donor eggs.

 

Trisha’s Journeyhttps://www.fairfaxeggbank.com/blog/trishas-journey-to-motherhood/
Trisha is a donor egg mom or donor egg recipeient who shared her donor egg success story on our blog.  She is a 38 year old working professional who had gone through seven failed IUI and three failed IVF cycles using her own eggs before she decided to reach out to Fairfax EggBank. Her story is told through a series of blog posts which take readers through her decision to use frozen eggs, finding the right egg donor, and the medical processes she went through.

 

PVED (Parents Via Egg Donation) http://blog.pved.org/

Parents Via Egg Donation, or PVED, is a non-profit 501(c)(3) organization created to provide an informational and supportive environment where parents and parents-to-be can learn and share information about all facets of the donor egg ivf process. They blog information about agencies, legal and medical professionals, treatment centers, mental health therapists, pharmaceutical companies, and other resources.

 

Facebook: @parentsviaeggdonation

Twitter: @pved

 

A Chick and Eggs https://chickandeggs.com/

This one is the journey of a women who states she’s “an infertile chick who made a baby with some other chick’s eggs. Which is weird,” and decided to blog about it using a good dose of humor to approach the subject of egg donation. She discusses her timeline of infertility as well as the trials and tribulations of being pregnant. One reader commented with “thanks for the laughs – I really need them.”

 

DE Mommy http://demommy.blogspot.com/

Here is “a family’s journey to adding a sibling (or two!) through anonymous donor eggs” after trying various methods to become pregnant and experiencing a great deal of heartache. She eventually became pregnant with twins and continues to blog about her family life.

 

My Path to Mommyhood http://mypathtomommyhood.blogspot.com/2013/04/anatomy-of-egg-donor-cycle.html

Jess is a married 40 year old special education teacher who has been on the path to mommyhood for seven years. She invites readers to follow her on “the crazy, hopeful, discouraging, funny, and ultimately successful (one way or another) path to parenthood while facing infertility.” This was a 2012 Night of Hope nominee for “Best Blog.” She also shares links to “Useful Reads” about both infertility and adoption.

 

EGGtraordinary: Our Journey to Egg Donation http://journey2eggdonation.blogspot.com/

Hope was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure nine years ago but beat the odds and was able to have her own genetic child. She decided to grow her family further through egg donation, eventually having twin girls.

 

The Egg Donor http://eggciteddonor.blogspot.com/

From the perspective of a woman donating her eggs, this blog follows her journey as a four-time donor. As someone considering egg donation to start your family, it may be interesting to hear things from the point of view of the donor.

Twitter: @EggDonorDiva

 

Don’t Count Your Eggs http://dontcountyoureggs.typepad.com/blog/donor-eggs/

Maya is 35 and claims she has “tried anything and everything we could because time and options were running out.” She and her husband were able to conceive via embryo donation but her story includes posts about infertility, procedures, and coping before, during, and after she was able to start her family. Her blog was nominated in 2014 and 2015 for the Night of Hope “Best Blog.”

Twitter: @eggcountingal

 

Fairfax EggBank is confident in the quality of its egg donors, the expertise of its scientists, and the experience it has in freezing eggs. We hope that these blogs helped answer some questions about the journey of using donor eggs with ivf you may have. If you would like more information, please feel free to Contact Us.


Thank You Letter from a Recipient to Her Egg Donor

Below is a recent letter from an egg donor recipient, who wanted to express anonymously to her egg donor just how grateful she was.

Hello,

I don’t know even where to begin with my gratitude to you.  I know that you and I will never meet, but I want you to know every day I am so thankful you have given me and my husband hope to become parents.  I think about the sacrifice it took for you to be selfless to help people have a family.

When I started the donor egg process, I have to admit I was thinking I wouldn’t find someone who matched me or had the same values as me.  After reading your profile there were so many similarities.  You and I were both softball players and we have a lot of the same physical features, but the biggest reason why I chose you was how you wanted your kids to be kind.  That is what I have always wanted for my children.

I don’t think you realize what you have given to our family. We are now excited and hopeful for the future.  When I was diagnosed with my form of infertility, which was premature ovarian failure, I was so scared and anxious about the future.  We now have a plan something to look forward to.  Please know we consider you an angel.  I thank God every day for you giving us this opportunity.  Both of us have longed for a baby for so long and because of you we are one step closer.

I hope that every woman that goes through this finds an egg donor that fits them as perfect as I did.  I will continue to be thankful for you every day for the rest of my life.  Once again thank you, thank you, thank you!  I am forever grateful and you will always have a special place in our hearts.

 

Sincerely,

Your donor egg recipient


Trisha’s Journey Part VI: What We’ll Tell Others About Our Donor Egg Journey

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The following is the final blog of Trisha H’s journey to motherhood. It is with bittersweet sadness that we conclude this series, though we are excited for the many new chapters Trisha and her family will create. Trisha, thank you so much for your invaluable contributions to sharing your voice and for the help you have provided to others going through the same journey.

Our Future – What Stories Will We Share with Friends/Family and our Child(ren)

What will we tell people about our donor egg journey?

This is a topic my husband and I discussed early on in our process.  I should probably start by letting you know that you readers know more about our journey than almost everyone in our personal lives. Apart from our mothers, my sister, and two close but not best friends, “strangers” are the only people who know our entire story.  Not that we are ashamed of our donor egg family, but because we know some people may not protect this decision with the tenderness it deserves.  It would shatter my heart if someone, especially someone we trust, ever used our family as a topic of mockery or gossip. As such, there are some parts of our story we elect to keep private to a certain degree.

Here is how we see it….

What is important is our child was made out of pure LOVE. He is our baby, who grew in my belly for 9 long months. We have an indescribable bond that is only shared between the two of us.  It is magical!  I still think about the day he was pulled (via c-section) from my belly.  The moment I heard him cry, I let out my own cry that came from a place so deep within my soul… a place I have never felt before.  I can still remember the instant and greatest love, joy, and relief that came over me… we finally got to meet our sweet baby boy, who looks exactly like his father, may I add. I am telling you, he is the number one reason I was born.

So, back to what we will tell people.  As far as family and friends are concerned, those who already know, are the only people, who are not “strangers,” we plan to tell (well, almost – keep reading about “others”).  What they know – because there is nothing more to share – is all they will know.  We trust in each of them to keep our family secret sacred.  For “others” in our lives, they will know our story about the challenges we faced when trying to conceive, and how we met our eventual success through IVF (just not the donor egg part).   With “strangers” and “others” in our lives who struggle with fertility (we will only tell other people we know in our lives – family, friends, or acquaintances – if they struggle with trying to conceive themselves), they will know our ENTIRE story.  We find it an honor to help other families make their own decision about their options to have a child, even if it means “others” in our lives knowing about our decision to use donor eggs… I believe helping families make the decision about their family is reason number two for why I was born.

Now, will we tell our son?  We still have not decided.  If we do, it will not be before he is 18 years old.  Some of the questions we ponder are – Why does he need to know?  How will it make him feel?  Will he see me differently?  Will he understand?  Will it hurt him?  Can we deal with the rejection, if it means being honest, should he decide to respond this way?  There are so many questions for which we do not have the answers right now.  And, any of what we will share will depend on his personality. Will he grow up to be an open-minded individual?  If so, and we decide to talk to him about how he was conceived, will we share our story about IVF only or the full truth regarding donor eggs?  Again, we do not have the answers at this time and do not believe it to be important right now, either.

In the end, whatever we decide to share, our son will always know he was made with lots of love sprinkled with a little bit of sugar and spice.  He will know it takes mommy parts and daddy parts to make a baby and, sometimes, when these parts are not working very well, doctors help mommies and daddies make babies like him.

 

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Let’s Chat!

I like to talk a lot – not only vocally but with my fingers.  Send me your thoughts and questions to success@fairfaxeggbank.com.  I promise to respond as promptly as possible.  Below is a list of planned blog topics, but if you have additional topics to suggest, as they relate to trying to conceive through donor options, please let me know.

Series:

The decision journey Part I: The beginning of my fertility journey and the decision to use donor eggs

The decision journey Part II: Deliberating fresh v. frozen eggs

The decision journey Part III: Finding the right donor

How the process worked once I found my donor, and the cradle-to-grave (or “big fat positive” [BFP]) process

Resources I used throughout the decision process

Trisha’s Husband’s Journey: Reflections and Advice to Other Partners

Our future – What stories will we share with friends/family and our child(ren) – Current Blog


Trisha’s Husband’s Journey: Reflections and Advice to Other Partners

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The following blog is the sixth part to Trisha H’s journey to motherhood – but with a twist. We feature Avi, Trisha’s husband, in commemoration of Father’s Day. The words are all his own.

Trisha’s Husband’s Journey: Reflections and Advice to Other Partners

Words can’t describe the way I felt when Trisha called to say – “WE’RE PREGNANT!!”  I had wanted to hear these words for more than four years while we were trying to have a baby.  Not just because I was ready to be a father, but because I knew it was so important for Trisha.  She wanted nothing more than to grow our family and be the best wife and mom for our family. And, I have to tell you, she is killing it. She is the absolute best!

As Father’s Day approaches, I reflect back on last year.  It was during Father’s Day weekend 2015 when we had our transfer.  I can remember when it was taking place, I looked at Trisha and then up at God and said in a silent prayer, “Please let this be the one.  Amen.”  Afterwards, as we sat in IHOP, watching the other fathers celebrate the day, I only hoped that for Father’s Day 2016, I’d be right along with them… and I am.  I am a proud dad of the most special little boy!!

Our son is only a few months old and doesn’t understand what we’re celebrating today.  But, I know.  And I couldn’t be happier.  Finally, I get to enjoy this day – starting today and for the rest of our lives – eating pancakes alongside the other dads and sons.

You know what’s even more exciting?  Thinking about the years ahead when we finish the day off on a father-son boating, fishing, and hiking trip.  Just us guys, enjoying ourselves as we get dirty and eat lots of junk food that’s not approved by mom HAHAHA!!  I can’t wait!

For all of you on the dad-to-be journey, I wish you all the luck in the world.  I know the road isn’t easy, but hang in there; especially for your wife or partner’s sake.  If you’re anything like me, you almost feel powerless; you wish you can take away the tears and hurt and pain but can’t.

As men, we want to fix everything, but with infertility, you’re limited on what you can do.  To be honest, patience is your best tool.  Always remember you’re in this ‘fight’ together.  You should allow this time to bring the two of you closer by talking about the process and sharing in the decision-making that’s best for your family.  Do not ever say – “It’s whatever you want.”  Have an opinion and be her comfort.  Most importantly, never let her feel like this is her fault.

What worked well for Trisha and me was finding a hobby the two of us enjoyed together.  We would hike a few days out of the month; it was great.  She also started “collecting” puppies and, as much as I didn’t want us to have any dogs, it was what made her happy and helped with the “void” – so puppies we got.  As a matter of fact, we now have three of them.  And, to be honest, the dogs brought each of us comfort during our struggle, and I’m thankful for each them.

Other advice I can give… attend as many, if not every, appointment you can with your wife or partner.  When she cries, let her – and don’t ever say “it will be okay” because that’s not what she wants to hear right now.   She hears that enough from people outside of the home.  From you, she needs to hear that together the two of you will get through the struggle, and whatever is in store for your future, you will accept and accept together.  Remind her you didn’t marry her for the children, although they will definitely be a blessing.  Instead remind her you married her because you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her.  No matter what, you want to be there for her.  Every. Step. Of. The. Way.

Again, from one father to one-to-be, best of luck to you.  I’m telling you, you don’t know what smiling is until you see those eyes looking up at you for the first time.  Being a father is amazing… it’s the greatest gift God (and the egg bank LOL) can give to a man.  I love my son with all of my heart, and I will teach him how to love with all of his heart, too.

 

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From Trisha – Let’s Chat!

I like to talk a lot – not only vocally but with my fingers.  Send me your thoughts and questions to success@fairfaxeggbank.com.  I promise to respond as promptly as possible.  Below is a list of planned blog topics, but if you have additional topics to suggest, as they relate to trying to conceive through donor options, please let me know.

Series:

The decision journey Part I: The beginning of my fertility journey and the decision to use donor eggs

The decision journey Part II: Deliberating fresh v. frozen eggs

The decision journey Part III: Finding the right donor

How the process worked once I found my donor, and the cradle-to-grave (or “big fat positive” [BFP]) process

Resources I used throughout the decision process

Our future – What stories will we share with friends/family and our child(ren) – Next Blog